To know the difference

I found myself confronted with the bad wolf and good wolf again. An argument that I wasn't going to win. I wasn't wrong. And she wasn't wrong either. It was one of those situations where you take a deep breath, know that it's coming, and have those good qualities ready -patience, listening, understanding. No matter how frustrated you are.

I want to try and choose to be the bigger person from now on. I am only hurting myself when I drown in all that makes me feel bad. I know I still need to control my temper. I just get so frustrated when I get blamed, accused, or spoken for when its not true. But you've heard me say that I am justified by the way I feel, so that is true for the other person as well - rational or not.

If you hold no hurt, pain, and just let things be sometimes, accept we're all humans and make mistakes countless times - we will suffer less and love more. If we accept that we have entire lives that no one person knows completely, that we share fragments of, but think we know wholly - we will judge less and be there more. If we accept that we are family or good friends, and that there is an unspoken relationship that threads through our each day, knowing that each of us is trying (sometimes forgets), but there is more to it then what meets the eye - we will demand less and let us each be.

"Saying sorry doesn't mean you're wrong and the other person is right, it means you value the relationship more than your ego."